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“Wellness is the compete integration of body, mind, and spirit – the realization that everything we do, think, feel, and believe has an effect on our state of well-being.”
-Greg Anderson

Welcome! Make yourself at home. I am just someone who is on a journey to seek wholeness through the avenue of exploring wellness. I am not an experts by any means but just someone intrigued by this topic from my own personal struggles of trying to get my life together. Some have already reach their goal to wholeness but there is always something new we can learn from one another. Wholeness and wellness have different meanings to everyone, and that’s ok. This is just a space to just be.

Keep the hope

I sighed as I failed once again at a goal I was trying to achieve. It felt like I would never overcome this. Things like weight issues, staying consistent at my self care routine or saying my affirmation daily. Transformation takes work and when you’re “almost” there and don’t actually make it, it can give a blow to your ego. In the pass I have given to others more than myself without a second thought but would lack the effort to keep my word to myself. It sometimes leave you feeling hopeless and drained. However there is hope, if you have a little faith. Faith is define as something hoped for the evidence of things not seen. So even if you don’t see how it’s going to happen just have faith that it can and will. Continue to dust yourself off, forgive yourself, and encourage yourself that you CAN make it. So though things may seem impossible in the moment, hold on to hope, something that can be a beacon of light in the dark tunnel. And as it is said, the flowers need the sunshine and the rain to grow. Hold on and keep the hope.

Just Take A Stroll

The other day I had some free time from my kids. In those moments sometimes it’s unclear exactly how I would like to spend it. I decided I would go take a walk on the dock by the beach. It was super relaxing. I strolled, breath the fresh air and took in the beauty. To be in nature it made me feel like I was apart of something bigger than myself. For those few minutes I forgot about all about the things that were bothering me and was present, something I struggle to do. I was fully emersed in the moment and loved it. Imagine something that cost me nothing had such a profound effect on my mental health. Wherever you are and have the opportunity to take a stroll, walk or run at someplace that give you solace, take it. It could be a park, beach, or neighborhood trail, seize the opportunity to do so. Your mind, body and soul will thank you for it.

The Good You Do

Do you know the phrase that says, the good you do comes back to you? Well, I was thinking about it the other day and came to the conclusion there is truth to that statement. Not every good deed you do come back in the exact same form. For example, one of my family members paid for my car repair and not to long after something happened to their car where I was in the position to provide a ride to get them back and forth until their car got repaired. Sometimes the good you do comes back in everyday blessings. Such as meeting a good friend along your journey, or the fact that you’re in good health. Perhaps someone gave you a gift or paid for something on your behalf. So, continue to do good because you never know how and when it will come back to you, especially right when you need it the most. Do not get weary in doing good, it has a way to find you at the right time.

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Gratitude

Yesterday was Thanksgiving and I spent mines with my family over at a family friend, that was hosting. There was plenty delicious food and warm greetings from people that you have not seen in a while. My children had so much fun they did not want to leave. One of them was crying to stay, it could be from all the toys that was laid out for the children that came over. From the hustle and bustle of getting myself and the kids ready, I realize at the end of the day that I really did not reflect on what am I truly grateful for. I began to count my blessings one by one and discovered I needed to practice being more grateful for the simple things that I look over. Things I may take for granted like my sight, or the fact I can walk and talk. What if we began to get more creative each day in discovering something new we can be grateful for. I belief we would learn to appreciate this thing called life just a little bit more. So let’s challenge ourselves to find at least 3 things each day we can be thankful for.

Good Distraction

As I was in the middle of doing some homework and trying to focus and my two toddlers both wanted to sit on my lap, while I was trying to get my work done. At first my response was mom is busy, can you find something else to do? But then it came to me, they won’t stay small forever. So I then place both of them on each lap and then I procedded to do what I was doing. Yes it was a distraction, but just for a few minutes, and at least that is a memory could look back on. Not every distraction is bad, life happens even with our hectic schedule or our laser focus on one thing. Making the time for the good distractions of life is something am learning. To embrace the inconvenience of a child needing your attention at not the best time or even calling someone that comes to mind even when you’re busy. Life can get very busy but take the time out for the good distraction.

Counting Calories

I recently started back my health journey and decided to use an app to help me stay on track. The app use the concept of measuring your calorie intake on a daily bases. I would log in everything I ate, I mean everything. Even if I took a bite of something I would log it in, because I wanted to be brutally honest with myself with how much I was really consuming. To me it worked like an accountability partner. At first I felt really good and proud of myself for sticking to it but then when I add things I rather not, it became a little too real. Eating over the allotted calories suggested made me feel a little restricted and almost like I was developing an unhealthy relationship with the app. So, I realized that even though the app was very helpful in tracking and recording my progress it should not turn to something legalistic where I feel like a failure if I go over that amount. I should be proud for eating a little more healthy, making better choice and being more aware of what I was selecting. I learned tools are there to help you not to control you and you’re boss for just trying.

Laugh at yourself

It is easy as soon at you think about your stressors to become tense and discouraged. Laughing through life is no laughing matter. Lifting your mood can relieve those said stressors. Somethings can be so bleak there is no “light” in your situation, more to cry about than laugh. But what if we make it intentional, a must, something that we must do daily. What would it take to put the smile on your face. For me the most silly things does this for me, like seeing a funny meme, or watching my sister do a silly dance and chat “nonsense”. She is one of the most funniest person I know. The skill to laugh at myself is something I am working on and trying to be intentional about. Maybe making time to watch a funny movie, or put on some music and dance like nobody’s watching, or even just smiling for no reason, do what makes you happy.

Get out the rut

There are times when you are on top of your “game”. Like, controlling your weight, being organized, or keeping up socially. However, just as there are some highs in life, there is also some lows. Like not feeling your best, because you got off your routine of self care, or isolating yourself instead of socializing. Ugh, it’s the worst, when you don’t feel your best. Have you ever had to go to an event but just hope your mood would just stabilize itself until you got through it? If only I would have stuck with my routine I would be looking and feeling great, but that’s not the case, so what do I do? Do I fake it till I make it? Accept this as my normal, or love the whole beautiful mess I am. I say, why not all three? Sometimes you have to just do it, thank you Nike for that phrase, it is like you’re practicing to become the change you want to see. To fully accept something is to accept it as a whole, so yes this might be your normal but you are also progressing. And lastly, it is so easy to fantasize about some else completely accepting and loving us and all our flaws but when it comes to us doing that for ourselves, it can be quite challenging. So, celebrate your “wins” whether great or small and know that ruts are just a part of life, don’t take it personal.

Trying to be positive.

It is funny how some people are just naturally happy and positive most of the time. That must be a good feeling. For some of us, it does not come so easy. It takes hard work and constant practice. It sometimes can feel daunting to choose your thoughts, so carefully, so many times throughout the day. Can you say exhausting?! I believe your thought are extremely powerful. How do I know this? I can relate to the relationship between thoughts and how it affects you. I experience a panic attack when I was younger, and I felt my heart racing, almost feeling like I was getting a heart attack, and it was triggered by a thought or some irrational fears. I had the thought the other day, if your thoughts can be so intense in a negative way, it can also work the other way around. Just repeating the phase “I am capable of anything I put my mind to” it instantly create space for your mind to accept that statement. There are so many different approach to being a more positive person, but whatever works for you, just know that the power lays within you and you are worth the fight. Never give up, no matter how impossible it seems.